The Anti-Perfectionist Guide to Modern Motherhood

The Modern Mother’s Dilemma: Finding Community in an Age of Isolation

Modern motherhood is lonely.

In her book Mother Fcked: The Anti-Perfectionist Guide to Surviving and Thriving in the Chaos of Modern Motherhood*, Regina Steele calls out the impossible expectations placed on today’s moms. Her approach is raw, relatable, and long overdue.

“We are such a neglected and isolated demographic of moms in today’s society because we have this brainwash effect that we have to do it all alone. And if you don’t do it alone, you’re a weak mom.”
– Regina Steele

From "It Takes a Village" to "Do It All Yourself"

Steele grew up in a multigenerational household. Her mom had support, from her grandmother, their church, and neighbors. Back then, parenting was shared.

Today’s reality is the opposite. Many mothers find themselves managing every detail of child-rearing solo—activities, appointments, emotional development, entertainment. It's all on one person.

Technology has only raised the stakes. Between location tracking, endless messaging, and social media pressures, mothers are now expected to be on-call 24/7.

“When I think back to what we used to do as kids, my parents were hardly involved in any of my extracurricular activities… we weren’t allowed to come in until it got dark.”

Reclaiming the Self—Without the Guilt

Many moms lose sight of who they were before children. Steele did too.
It took her six years to even begin finding her way back.

That process started with health. After battling autoimmune issues, she discovered that healing didn’t require trendy diets or expensive supplements—it just required real food.

“Try eating food that doesn’t have to have a label.”

Her rule of thumb:
Fewer than seven ingredients. Nothing you can’t pronounce.

Don’t Just Split the Load—Build the Foundation

One of Steele’s most impactful insights is on partnership.

Supportive parenting isn’t just about who changes the diapers. It’s about building a relationship that your kids can learn from—one rooted in respect, shared responsibilities, and emotional safety.

When that’s in place, the entire family dynamic changes.

The New Standard: Imperfect, Supported, Whole

Regina Steele’s story isn’t just a guide—it’s permission.

• To ask for help

• To protect your identity

• To care for your health

• To not do it all

• To say no to perfection

Because motherhood isn’t meant to be survived alone.
And no one should be expected to carry it all without a village.